Okay, I don’t mind suggestion, but I hate being told what to do. This is true in the work place when they assume I lack the common sense to realize that scrubbing harder will make the caked on food come off quicker — really? Thank you for that enlightening information. And here I thought that daintily brushing it with a daisy would make the particles fly away. No shit!
Or when I’m in class and the professor tells us to read something, and then continually reminds us to read that something while we’re reading it. Yeah, got it the first time. If you’d stop reminding me to keep reading I might actually finish. Sigh. Curses.
Then there’s rappers. In their music videos they are surrounded by scantily clad seemingly “willing and eager” women dancing like whores trying to “please” them. These rappers are the most demanding of all.
“Bend over to the front touch your toes back dat ass up and down and get low.” – Get Low by Lil’ Jon and East Side Boys
“Fill another cup up, feelin’ on your butt what, you don’t even care now …” – Blame it (On the Alcohol) by Jamie Foxx feat. T-Pain
“Open wide I know you’re thirsty, say ahh, say ahh,” – Say Ahh by Trey Songz
“I make her wear nothing but handcuffs and heels.” – Mrs. Officer by Lil’ Wayne
“Let me see that pussy hoe, you can’t leave that pussy closed … if that condom pop, I ain’t stoppin’ I’m gon come inside.” – Beat That Pussy by Maino
“Shake that ass Ma let me see you hips swing.” – Swing by Savage
“Ay bitch! Wait til you see my dick, Imma beat dat pussy up.” – Wait (The Whisper Song) by Ying Yang Twins
“It’s getting hot in herre, so take off all your clothes.” – Hot in Herre by Nelly
“So gimmie the rhythm and it’ll be off with they clothes, then bend over to the front and touch your toes.” – Yeah by Usher feat. Ludacris and Lil’ Jon
“Pride is what you had baby girl I’m what you have.” – LL Cool J’s verse in All I Have by Jennifer Lopez (thankfully she doesn’t get back together with him)
Despite the misogynist, controlling, demanding, sexist, etc, etc lyrics. These are songs I enjoy dancing to, like, and know most, if not all, the words to. Well, with the exception of Beat That Pussy which I’ve never actually listened to but it has overtly degrading lyrics where a woman is essentially a breathing blow up doll. I stumbled across those lyrics when trying to find the lyrics to Wait (The Whisper Song). Which is one song I didn’t need to hear – EVER – the whispering added a whole new level of creepy. I heard it at a party once and had to stop dancing for a moment, it felt wrong to move sexily to such a horrid song. Forgive me, but I don’t find “beating the pussy” to be an arousing phrase. I might as well be a hole on the wall and not a human being. Hmm not okay.
So, rappers. PLEASE, stop telling me what to do.
If I want to bend over, I will. If I want to get low, I will. If I want to give you head, I will. If I want to shake my ass, I will. If I want to wear just heels, I will. If I want to take off my clothes, I will. But I will never let you “beat” my pussy – make love or sex? Possibly. But never beat.
However, if I’m told to do any of the above I won’t. I have pride, a choice. I’m a fucking woman and this is the 21st century. So why do these lyrics exist? How is this socially acceptable even among some of the more extreme feminists? And why do I choose to listen to them? And how come it’s not till the start using violent phrasing do I stand up say ‘no you can’t say that’? Shouldn’t it be sooner, meaning shouldn’t it be when the objectifying begins?
Even so. Even despite my gracious did he just say that mind-set. These songs probably won’t leave my world anytime soon. Who doesn’t get nostalgic and have the urge to dance when Nelly tells you to start taking off your clothes or when Lil’ Jon tells you to dance down low?